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On being a Chronic Job Quitter.

I’m starting a new job soon (yes! A real job!), and boy am I feeling that anxiety. Everyone gets those nervous and anxious feelings about any big new step in their life, right? But here I am feeling double the anxiety and nerves, since I’m just a generally anxious person to begin with. All I can think is ‘I really hope I can do this’ and ‘I wonder how long I’m gonna last this time’. Cause let’s face it, I’m a chronic job quitter. Do you know someone like this? Lasts about a few months to maybe a year, then quits and moves on to something else. That’s me. For me, it’s not because the job itself gets difficult. It’s either it gets too monotonous and I get bored with the routine, or I get really fed up with the environment and my coworkers and it starts affecting my mental health.

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Unhelpful Thinking Styles

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I have this worksheet stuck up on my fridge and I thought I’d share this with you all, since it helps me to check myself throughout the day.

It’s called the “Unhelpful Thinking Styles / Cognitive Distortions” worksheet. Continue reading


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Flight

“One of my cousins recently had to choose subjects for form 4. She really wanted to do Art and Music, she was pretty good in those two subjects but her parents strongly objected, so now she’s doing sciences…and absolutely hating it. Her parents meant well, but in the long run, did they really help her?”

Why do we continue to crush the spirits of children?

The San Paria Initiative

When I was younger I thought I could fly. I thought if I jumped high enough and flapped my arms fast enough, I could take flight and soar through the sky. I thought I could fly, until my parents told me I couldn’t, until the world told me I couldn’t.

When we were younger, we had such big dreams. We believed we were invincible and our desires reflected that. We had wings when we were small, and as we got older, the world gradually clipped more and more of those wings. I remember when I was a little girl, I wanted to be so many different things. I was a girly girl, so Barbie dolls were a staple. I used to make clothes for them, cut their hair and so, I wanted to be a fashion designer or a stylist (not sure if I knew what a stylist was, but…

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Why I’m a feminist

What feminism is:

What feminism isn’t:

  • Hating men.
    That’s called misandry, and that’s definitely NOT what we’re about.
  • Hating women who want to stick to traditional feminine roles.
    Essentially, what we want is for women to be free to do what they like. If they want to be feminine, no problem. If they want to be involved in activities that are not usually considered feminine, no problem. This is about giving women the choice to be their true selves and not be deemed inferior to anyone else.
  • Ignoring the struggles faced by men.
    Hey guys, the patriarchy and toxic masculinity hurts you too.

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Thoughts on suicide in Trinidad and Tobago

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This post seeks to broaden the epistemology of the greater society on the matter of life and suicide. In light of the passing of Chester Bennington, akin to other cases of suicide, society cries out “Suicide is the Easy way out” or “They should man up and deal with their problems”. In my opinion, these statements are considered to be foolish and thoughts of the ignorant. There are several theories out there that explain the reasons in which one might consider taking their life.

Studies carried out by Beck and the case studies by Lester (1998) have deduced the presence of an underpinning congruence between depression, the feeling of hopelessness and the thought of suicide. The thought of committing suicide is never the first that comes to mind. The human body is hardwired for survival, therefore one must endure a great deal of suffering to overcome this primal nature of…

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