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On Leaving a Toxic Family

TW: This post mentions abuse and domestic violence.

Hi friends. I know I’ve been away from this blog for quite a while as I’ve been focusing on other parts of my life. But I wanted to come back just to share something that’s been on my mind pretty heavily, lately.

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On JK Rowling’s thing about after the fact diversity

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JKR Hermione Tweet Sure, JKR loves black Hermione. Just… not enough to have written her as such in the text or any follow-up material for the Harry Potter series.

My big issue with all of this “after the fact diversity” that we’re seeing around JR Rowling and the Harry Potter series is that she’s getting so much credit for doing basically nothing with regard to representation.

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On Being Compassionate at Work

Hey everyone. This post is dedicated to those who find it hard to remain compassionate to others when there is a lot of tension at work. If you’ve found yourself thinking about others as being very distant from you, or if you’ve been feeling cold toward your coworkers and even your loved ones, this is the post for you!

Personally, in times of struggle, what I try to do is focus and let go of my anger. I think that’s a normal thing people deal with. I want to make sure I can keep myself in check during those moments where too much is being asked of me and I feel like I’m about to snap.

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On being a Chronic Job Quitter.

I’m starting a new job soon (yes! A real job!), and boy am I feeling that anxiety. Everyone gets those nervous and anxious feelings about any big new step in their life, right? But here I am feeling double the anxiety and nerves, since I’m just a generally anxious person to begin with. All I can think is ‘I really hope I can do this’ and ‘I wonder how long I’m gonna last this time’. Cause let’s face it, I’m a chronic job quitter. Do you know someone like this? Lasts about a few months to maybe a year, then quits and moves on to something else. That’s me. For me, it’s not because the job itself gets difficult. It’s either it gets too monotonous and I get bored with the routine, or I get really fed up with the environment and my coworkers and it starts affecting my mental health.

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Unhelpful Thinking Styles


I have this worksheet stuck up on my fridge and I thought I’d share this with you all, since it helps me to check myself throughout the day.

It’s called the “Unhelpful Thinking Styles / Cognitive Distortions” worksheet. Continue reading

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“One of my cousins recently had to choose subjects for form 4. She really wanted to do Art and Music, she was pretty good in those two subjects but her parents strongly objected, so now she’s doing sciences…and absolutely hating it. Her parents meant well, but in the long run, did they really help her?”

Why do we continue to crush the spirits of children?

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When I was younger I thought I could fly. I thought if I jumped high enough and flapped my arms fast enough, I could take flight and soar through the sky. I thought I could fly, until my parents told me I couldn’t, until the world told me I couldn’t.

When we were younger, we had such big dreams. We believed we were invincible and our desires reflected that. We had wings when we were small, and as we got older, the world gradually clipped more and more of those wings. I remember when I was a little girl, I wanted to be so many different things. I was a girly girl, so Barbie dolls were a staple. I used to make clothes for them, cut their hair and so, I wanted to be a fashion designer or a stylist (not sure if I knew what a stylist was, but…

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