I’m starting a new job soon (yes! A real job!), and boy am I feeling that anxiety. Everyone gets those nervous and anxious feelings about any big new step in their life, right? But here I am feeling double the anxiety and nerves, since I’m just a generally anxious person to begin with. All I can think is ‘I really hope I can do this’ and ‘I wonder how long I’m gonna last this time’. Cause let’s face it, I’m a chronic job quitter. Do you know someone like this? Lasts about a few months to maybe a year, then quits and moves on to something else. That’s me. For me, it’s not because the job itself gets difficult. It’s either it gets too monotonous and I get bored with the routine, or I get really fed up with the environment and my coworkers and it starts affecting my mental health.
I have this worksheet stuck up on my fridge and I thought I’d share this with you all, since it helps me to check myself throughout the day.
It’s called the “Unhelpful Thinking Styles / Cognitive Distortions” worksheet. Continue reading
What feminism is:
- Feminism is a social movement that advocates for women’s rights, gender equality, and works towards trying to dismantle systems of oppression in society.
- Feminism is not the belief that one gender should be raised in power above another. The very definition of feminism shows a complete opposition to this belief. So when people comment against feminism, they are supporting sexism. There is no sitting on the fence. You are either a feminist or sexist. Unfortunately, most sexists don’t know they are sexist, and compose the majority of the population. They are unaware that sexism is something that has been forced on to them through the brainwashed media of a patriarchal society.
What feminism isn’t:
- Hating men.
That’s called misandry, and that’s definitely NOT what we’re about.
- Hating women who want to stick to traditional feminine roles.
Essentially, what we want is for women to be free to do what they like. If they want to be feminine, no problem. If they want to be involved in activities that are not usually considered feminine, no problem. This is about giving women the choice to be their true selves and not be deemed inferior to anyone else.
- Ignoring the struggles faced by men.
Hey guys, the patriarchy and toxic masculinity hurts you too.
Tell me the passwords of your mind.
I need to read your thoughts myself.
I do not trust your words.
Your lips are the greatest liars
I have ever encountered.
I’m sure you’ve heard mental illness success stories. I mean, who hasn’t? Someone overcame severe depression, wrote an account of it, and we’re all here feeling happy for them, right? Someone speaks out on how terrible anxiety is, and we all feel sympathetic towards them, right? And that’s all well and good, but I wanna talk about something else today. I wanna talk about the people still struggling through their illnesses. The people like me and so many others who have to hear things like,
“You’ll get over it! I was reading about this woman who struggled for years but she’s fine now!”
“Why don’t you try this medication I’ve heard of? It worked for this guy I know!”
“You should get out more and meet people, or even meditate or exercise! I’ve heard that works.”
“You shouldn’t be on medication; you need to do cognitive therapy. That’s way better.”
Listen folks, none of these things are tried and true. None of these ‘solutions’ are guaranteed to work for every single person dealing with mental illness. And please don’t push someone else’s success story in my face.